Witness to my life


”We need a witness to our lives. There’s a billion people on the planet, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you’re promising to care about everything. The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things, all of it, all of the time, every day. You’re saying ‘Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go unwitnessed because I will be your witness’.”

Susan Sarandon in the movie "Shall We Dance"


So why do I want a partner? What do I miss about being in a relationship?
Togetherness...


Holding hands


Someone to share my thoughts with


Someone to be companionably silent with


Someone to nap with on Saturday afternoon


Whilst he watches soccer, I lean against him reading a book, and only occasionally looking up when there's a goal or the possibility of a goal


Spooning. This, I think, I miss the most. Spooning in the night, and spooning early morning. Spooning late into the morning on weekends.


Outrageous sweet nothings whispered into my ear


Feeling special and beautiful


A sure Friday night date; a movie, dinner or dance partner

Experiencing the new together


Travelling together, seeing new people and places


Trying out a new restaurant in the city every fortnight

Knowing someone has my back


A different take on what I see

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