Kissing Frogs

  Image by abhinav.s via Flickr This is the part I hate about kissing multiple frogs - at some point, one of them, no a number of them, will need to be let down. I met Ronald at a seminar I attended recently. Very nice guy, friendly, considerate, always ready to lend a helping hand, in short, on his way to sainthood. Whenever we got put into teams to get some work done I engineered it so that he could be on my team because of his attitude and because of how much weight he pulled. On the last day of the seminar, as he walked in I said to him “I was really glad to see you walk in, and that must be because I like you very much.” “Now that’s a very good thing for the feeling is mutual,” he said. A few days after the seminar, Ronald invited most of the members of the seminar out for a drink at a hip new pub on Electric Avenue (not its real name but so-called for the level of nightlife on it). We were on the way to becoming friends. I thought him nice and easy t...

”We need a witness to our lives. There’s a billion people on the planet, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you’re promising to care about everything. The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things, all of it, all of the time, every day. You’re saying ‘Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go unwitnessed because I will be your witness’.” Susan Sarandon in the movie "Shall We Dance" So why do I want a partner? What do I miss about being in a relationship? Togetherness... Holding hands Someone to share my thoughts with Someone to be companionably silent with Someone to nap with on Saturday afternoon Whilst he watches soccer, I lean against him reading a book, and only occasionally looking up when there's a goal or the possibility of a goal Spooning. This, I think, I miss the most. Spooning in the night, and spooning early morning. Spooning late into the morning on w...